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I think that planning your wedding can be a lot of fun, but what if the groom wants to plan the wedding with you? Sure, after all, the wedding day belongs to both of us, but what if everything that he wants isn't necessarily everything that you want?
Has anyone got married and planned your wedding day with your groom? How did it go, and what did you do to make the wedding planning work out? There must be some way to compromise your wedding details when planning with a groom, so what did you do, or what would you do to make such a situation work out?
I don't mind sharing the wedding planning experience with my fiance, but there must be some kind of happy medium where we can both be happy with the details of our wedding day, but something like a wedding cake topper of a football player tackling his bride, isn't something that I want on my wedding cake, and that's just a piece of what I'm dealing with, and I thought he was joking, but he's not.
I don't want to plan a girly wedding, but I also don't want my wedding to look like a guys bachelor party either, so if anyone has advice on compromising the wedding planning details, I would love to hear what you have done, or what you think that we can do to make this work out with a bride planning her wedding day details with her groom when his ideas are not so ideal for what the bride has in mind, and yet you want him to help with the planning, but don't want to hurt his feelings on details you don't want to be a part of your wedding day, there has to be some way of compromising.
I am surprised you don't have more replies since planning a wedding should be done by both the bride and groom. Marriage is all about communication and compromise and therefore planning the wedding together is a GREAT way to see if you are compatible. Granted, a cake topper of a football player tackling his bride may not be your taste but maybe you could have a groom's cake with that topper on it and a more traditional topper for the actual wedding cake.
One more thing, you should be glad your groom wants to help plan the wedding. There are many, many grooms out there that leave it totally up to the bride. So write down how you envision your wedding and have your groom write down how he envisions it then sit down and work out the details and remember to comprise; both of you. Planning your wedding together is going to be one of the easiest tasks of your soon to be married life together. Wait until you have children and have to agree on their discipline, education, health care, etc.
Good luck planning the wedding. And do have fun!
@Ceremonies From The Heart -- Very well said, and I agree with your suggestion for both the bride and groom to make a list of their hopes and expectations for their weddings, and talk things over from there to see how you can compromise to make it a beautiful and memorable day for both of you. More grooms should be involved in the wedding planning, but I think many stay clear because many brides tend to become a bit of a bridezilla and they probably just don't want to add to the brides high emotional state during the planning...
That is so great that he wants to be involved. All I could get my fiance to participate in is picking out the wedding colors!!! What I have decided to do (and the advice was given to me by another wedding site) is to give him some tasks or certain tasks that he will enjoy doing and you can trust him to do. For example, I am trusting my fiance with picking out the tuxes, booking the DJ, etc. I hope that little piece of advice helps!
OMG What a total disaster, I know that it is BOTH their day but there are some things in life that should be left to a woman, lol I think I would have to put my foot down, lol isnt that selfish, but the thought of your partner saying he wants leopard skin balloons or a wedding singer at your reception, just too much for me, I couldnt get married under those circumstances, lol xxx
Wedding is a bond between two hearts. The planning of the day becomes good and perfect if, groom and bride do this together. There is no need to compromise details planning. You just have to adjust with your partner and include somethings that he/she wants with your planning. It will give a perfect adjustment between both and give a chance to understand and to know the choice of each other.