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It's never too early in the wedding planning process to start talking about your guest list. First things first. It's all about the budget! The best way to cut the cost of your wedding is by managing the guest list.
Know what your budget is for food at the reception. Decide how many you want to invite then use the following list to help. If you're on a tight budget, a smaller wedding may be the way to go. Each guest you invite translates into dollars spent on your wedding.
Here are a few things to think about when you are building your guest list for your wedding and reception. If you are paying for it yourself, you can pretty much invite as many as you can afford. If someone else is paying for the wedding, consult with them about a budget - and stick to it.
Who is so important that you can’t imagine getting married without them there? What can you afford? What is the wedding venue charging per plate? Sometimes a buffet is more economical. Who is absolutely not welcome?
Remember: family first!
1. Bride's list (Family) – Must be invited
2. Groom's list (Family) – Must be invited
3. Our list (Friends) – Should be invited
4. Would be nice to be invited. If you're no longer friendly with certain people from your past, don't feel obliged to invite them.
Narrowing down the wedding guest list is never an enviable task, but since a lot of your major wedding planning decisions are dependent on the number of guests you're inviting, it's a good idea to not wait until the last minute to finalize your list. Go through it with a red pen. It is better to first write up a preliminary list, then after a bit of consideration, have a second meeting to finalize the details. There is only one way to include everyone on your wedding guest list and that is increase your budget, which is usually unrealistic. ;-)
If your wedding guest list already approaches your budget's limit, take a step back. You might want to consider making your wedding an adults-only affair. You can trim the reception budget quite a bit if you eliminate having children at the reception. You do, however, run the risk of some close friends who have kids deciding not to show up for the wedding, either because they are offended by your choice or because they have no babysitter. You might want to consider providing guests with the names and numbers of local babysitters.
Kids look cute at weddings in their dress-up duds, but they don't need to be there if you need to make cuts. It is inappropriate to write “No Children” on the invitations. Note on the reception "RSVP" card that an adult reception will be held after the ceremony. The only correct wording for your "save the date" cards is "Adult Reception," "Adults Only Reception" or "Adult Only Ceremony and Reception."
Consider limiting the amount of people you allow to bring dates. Forget about adding "and guest" indiscriminately to single friends' invitations.
Will your ex and their date be excluded? Inviting an ex to a wedding is generally considered taboo, however, in some cases it might be acceptable, especially if one partner has an ex with whom he or she shares children.
How about people who are known to always drink to much?
If you see you will be over budget, begin your trims with business associates, then parents of your attendants. The people on your wedding guest list should be people you truly care about, not people you feel obligated to invite.
The first stage of planning your wedding is excitement! Yippeee... it's FINALLY my turn! You can avoid hurt feelings if you hold off on the big announcement to everyone except your immediate family. I know you're excited but resist the urge to tell anyone else until you know the wedding's approximate size and your budget. Remember this is YOUR wedding, not your parents or in-laws. Set limits. I know that may be difficult if one side of the family is paying for the wedding and the other side insists on inviting a bigger share of their friends.
The easiest way to satisfy everyone and avoid conflict is to set an equal number of guests that each family is allowed to invite. How they choose to select those guests is up to them. Make things clear to both your families early on. Once you have a final number of guests in mind, it's a good idea to divide the number of invitations by thirds. One for your family, one for the new in-laws and one set of invitations for your friends. Determine how many guests each set of parents will be able to invite. Ask them for a list of names, addresses, phone numbers and e-mail that does not exceed the number of guests they are allotted.
Most wedding consultants agree that if you invite 100 guests, about 20% may not respond or show up. Have a small back-up guest list ready for those who decline the invitation. Once the guest list and the budget are determined, you may have to make some adjustments to one or both to accommodate everyone.
It is impolite for a guest to ask if he or she can bring a date, however, it is not impolite of you to refuse. Say, "I'm sorry, Erica, but we have very limited seating at the reception and we just can't accommodate any additional guests."
Allow for errors when you order your wedding invitation. By the way, it is always a courtesy to send invitations to those people you know will probably not be able to attend due to great distance or illness. Mail your invitations out at least two to three months in advance for a normal wedding and six months or more if you've selected a holiday weekend. Be patient waiting for RSVPs, and don't hesitate to call unresponsive guests at least two weeks before the wedding.
Plan your wedding guest list according to budget, guest importance and stay with it!
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