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Question: My boyfriend’s sister is getting married in Hawaii and has VERY curly hair red and rarely wears make up. I love playing with hair and make up and put myself together every day but i am not a professional or have real training. She recently told me she is going to have me do her hair and make up for the week of her destination wedding and on her wedding day. I am flattered that she feels i can do the job and more than willing to take care of her hair and makeup for every event except the wedding. I offered to pay for a hair and makeup stylist for the big day and she turned me down. She said she wants it to be a personal day and knows i will do a good job.
I do not want to be responsible for how she looks in pictures that will be hung on their walls for the rest of their lives. I have straight fair hair and even if i practiced all year i could not perfect working with thick curly hair for a tropical environment. How can i convince her to let me hire a professional for the big day?! I understand she wants to keep it personal but it is too much pressure for someone who eventually could be my future sister in law. HELP!
Answer: Many brides over-simplify the importance of having their hair & makeup done professionally. Being that the bride seems to understand the necessity of having her hair & makeup done (and not doing it herself), ask her WHY she doesn’t want a stylist to render her beauty services. Perhaps she is concerned about having a “diva” bully her into wearing a lot of makeup. If that is the case, it is not that she doesn’t want her services professionally done-she just doesn’t want them done by the wrong person! If so, ask professionals a lot of questions, look at their portfolios and request references so that the bride can find someone who fulfills her exact needs.
You may also explain that the bride doesn’t get a chance to change her mind about hiring a professional after she sees her photographs! Professionals know how to make brides picture-perfect in person and in their wedding albums. They understand lighting, longevity, custom-blending, etc.
If it is still something that you can not get out of-INSIST that the bride have a trial appointment with you far in advance of the wedding. This will give you both a concrete idea of whether her expectations and your talents compliment one another. You may find that the bride changes her mind after the trial run or you may find you have hidden talents and actually enjoy the experience!